The worries of war vs the worries of now

This is my first post in my book review category. My book reviews will not be a standard post on what the book is about and my thoughts. Instead it will unpack the message I got from the book and how it applies to my life or life in general.

 

Survivor

Lesley Pearse is one of my favourite authors.   The books I have read are always set in the early 1900s and are based on the journeys of strong and ambitious women. Her latest book is called Survivor and follows the journey of 17-year-old Mariette who travels from New Zealand to England, as war is about to break out in Europe. The types of encounters Mariette had to face included a 6-month boat trip from New Zealand to England, the fear of bombings and finding bomb shelter as well as struggling to find a job outside of the typical female jobs, to name a few.

 

As I was reading this book I imagined what it must have been like living during those hard times. Life wasn’t as simple as it is now. You couldn’t just decide that you wanted to travel – you needed to factor in the 6-month or more boat trip.   War was ever-present.first world problems 2 Imagine living your life in constant fear, not knowing how long you had left with your family and loved ones. Lets not even mention the lack of basic necessities we have come to take for granted.

 

Looking at our current lives I wonder why we are always complaining that life is so hard. Yes, life is different and the new, modern times bring new challenges. But can live now really be as hard or harder than life then?

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We often refer to our problems as first world problems, which reinforces the fact that I am not sure they are real problems. Is it terrible that there is no free wifi available to us? How did we survive the night WhatsApp went down and we had to phone people to get hold of them? Getting the perfect selfie has become our daily challenge. Technology rules our lives, to the point that people own three or four chargers to ensure they are always in contact with the world.

 

I am not down playing the realities though. There are some real challenges we face. Crime keeps many of us awake at night. We run after money to make sure our children can go to private schools. And lets not mention all the people who don’t have access to water, electricity and other basic necessities although they are living in a country that could be classified as first world.

 

I guess what I am trying to say is that we need to evaluate what we complain about. Everyone has a bad day and sometimes it is ok to be pissed off because the wifi is down. But before we make a scene can we consider that there might be someone else out there that has been through and is going through something worse. This might give us a better perspective on life and make us appreciate what we have more.

 

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Balance? What is that?

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I often ask myself about balance – why is it so important, how do you get it and how do you maintain it?

I often put too much focus on one area of my life and put the other ares on hold.  I tend to live with an all or nothing attitude.  All the focus on one thing and nothing on the rest.  But yet again I have been faced with the importance of finding just the right balance between all the things I want in life.

For the past month or so I have thrown myself into work. Not necessarily because I have wanted to but because I needed to. As a result other parts of my life were neglected and the people close to me started suffering. Although work is important there comes a time where you need to say enough is enough and I am at that point now.

There will come a time where work will be stressful and the balance will shift to this and away from other stuff. But it needs to happen less frequently in my life. I have learnt the importance of making an effort to pack up at 17h00, not work at night and to stop using the excuse “I’m too busy”. This means I get to enjoy doing things I want to do in my spare time. Like watching series, reading, blogging, going to gym and of course spending time with the two important boys in my life.

I wish consistent balance was as easy as turning on a switch but unfortunately it is something that always needs to be worked at. I know there are many people out there that fight this same battle. Maybe we can spend more time working on the balance together than bitching about the imbalance and its cause. Something to think about….

 

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Got to get up and try

I was at gym last night, listening to “Try” by Pink.  With the earphones in, the music reasonably loud and no distractions I actually listened to the words of the song.  I realized that they resonated with me in so many different situations in my life.

 

When you find yourself in a difficult situation – you have two options.  You can give up and get burnt by the flame or you can pick yourself up and try.

 

“Try”

Oh oh

Ever wonder about what he’s doing?
How it all turned to lies?
Sometimes I think that it’s better to never ask why

Where there is desire
There is gonna be a flame
Where there is a flame
Someone’s bound to get burned
But just because it burns
Doesn’t mean you’re gonna die
You’ve gotta get up and try, and try, and try
Gotta get up and try, and try, and try
You gotta get up and try, and try, and try

Eh, eh, eh

Funny how the heart can be deceiving
More than just a couple times
Why do we fall in love so easy?
Even when it’s not right

Where there is desire
There is gonna be a flame
Where there is a flame
Someone’s bound to get burned
But just because it burns
Doesn’t mean you’re gonna die
You’ve gotta get up and try, and try, and try
Gotta get up and try, and try, and try
You gotta get up and try, and try, and try

Ever worry that it might be ruined
And does it make you wanna cry?
When you’re out there doing what you’re doing
Are you just getting by?
Tell me are you just getting by, by, by?

Where there is desire
There is gonna be a flame
Where there is a flame
Someone’s bound to get burned
But just because it burns
Doesn’t mean you’re gonna die
You’ve gotta get up and try, and try, and try
Gotta get up and try, and try, and try
You gotta get up and try, and try, and try
Gotta get up and try, and try, and try
Gotta get up and try, and try, and try
You gotta get up and try, and try, and try
Gotta get up and try, and try, and try

You gotta get up and try, and try, and try
Gotta get up and try, and try, and try

Here is the music video and song – it really is a beautiful song.

 

Final words – when you do decide to try – remember this:

easy

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